Perhaps, amateur could engineer a submarine that goes and stays at 10 feet deep? And it does not carry a nuc load?

Maybe there's a future for AIs designing narco-subs ?

Eeh, at some point, a nepotic Manager will move resources around in a way that an IC (should be manager) will be banging head on the railing with a question why am I not calling the shots.

and often thats when you know it's time to look for a new manager (inside or outside). Most folks with competency to solve hard problems have options

Unless this kind of dysfunctional management style burns you out. The you’re dying a little every day at work and don’t have the energy or ability to look for other work.

I’ve seen this happen so many times in my career it’s not even funny.

Well, it comes a lot of from the good stuff that involved parenting does.

In other words, even taking kids to school in a car instead them walking (or at least on the bike, but their own feet still involved, therefore they are themselves 100% in control in going to school) is the support that is not the in the list of "support" but will be in the long run. I should mention, I do recognize the time constraints of current society.

We don't just work more, we spend rest hours that we are not working think about the work. In short, we never stop working.

Let's not forget the "Fake it until you make it". It's driving force of any software related project.

Picking working strategies and tactics from peers is usual step. Considering this is HN, and a lot here deals with knowledge work, do you not read documentation and apply it? This is the same.

How is your wining different than theirs? Genuine question. It's human nature to cope with stress via wining.

Burnout from doing same thing over and over.

Pretty much. Every project I start, it's the same kind of yak-shaving. Database schema, logging, authentication, display of errors, build tools, CI/CD, backend, front-end. Full-time is not even enough for this for one person.

There is a ton of CRUD and mind-numbing tasks you have to churn through to get to the interesting parts, and I have been doing the boring parts for 20 years. The goals barely changed, but how we implement things has. New ways to build, new way to deploy, new languages, new frameworks. Just keeping up with it is a struggle.

I think my next project, I am just going to go Rails. It's my way of giving up :)

clippers to sledge hammers & spikes -- pretty big jump. changing direction to up does get ne off the rail (way) plane.

well, didnt go from cooking meat to oven by not toasting / charing things over & over.

Your comment reminded me saying:

Hard times create strong men, Strong men create good times, Good times create weak men, Weak men create hard times.

Anxiety makes you consider consequences of your choices and take action based on it. Aggression helps you fight for what you think is important.

Domestic violence was so absolute norm that there was a saying "Бьёт – значит любит", "he beats, means he loves". Rapes, domestic and not. So many of them. Corruption related crimes. Everywhere. Education, Health, Finance, you name it. There was not a single sector in the country that was not affected by corruption.

Also, don't forget that USSR is not only Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev and few other big cities. Rural USSR was very poor, and full of all sorts of crimes. Life in SU was not rosy as they might have tried to describe.

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