Interviewer, Scott Raab: A lot of folks worry that if they aren't available or don't say yes, they'll stop getting asked.
Bill: If you keep saying yes, they'll stop asking you, too. That's a much more likely event.
I don't know if the conclusion is for everybody to start saying 'no' more. Doesn't it depend on where you are? I know friends I stopped asking to hang with because all I have gotten is some form of repeated 'nos' in past. On the other hand, I have very few friends I stopped hanging with because they said too many 'yes' and I'm not sure if the reason was that they kept saying 'yes'.
Now, there are definitely times when you are saying too many yesses but in general, I think more people would do better by saying 'yes' than 'no' in their life.
To actually know whether you should be saying more of 'yes' or 'no' for yourself requires a much more nuanced evaluation than this generic post could offer.
Bill: If you keep saying yes, they'll stop asking you, too. That's a much more likely event.
I don't know if the conclusion is for everybody to start saying 'no' more. Doesn't it depend on where you are? I know friends I stopped asking to hang with because all I have gotten is some form of repeated 'nos' in past. On the other hand, I have very few friends I stopped hanging with because they said too many 'yes' and I'm not sure if the reason was that they kept saying 'yes'.
Now, there are definitely times when you are saying too many yesses but in general, I think more people would do better by saying 'yes' than 'no' in their life.
To actually know whether you should be saying more of 'yes' or 'no' for yourself requires a much more nuanced evaluation than this generic post could offer.