I think one of the things you learn on your way to C) is when it makes sense to roll your own. It is difficult, and maybe something that actually happens after c.
It seems to be very hard to make that call in time, and in the past I feel like every time we chose to implement something on our own, the existing solution would have been better in hindsight, and every time we said "ok, that existing solution looks fine" it turned out to be a dumpster fire a year down the line. But obviously the times where you made the right call just don't stick out that much because stuff "just worked", and also, in case you think you made the wrong decision, the alternative could've been ever worse. But still, I guess everybody knows that feeling? :-)
It seems to be very hard to make that call in time, and in the past I feel like every time we chose to implement something on our own, the existing solution would have been better in hindsight, and every time we said "ok, that existing solution looks fine" it turned out to be a dumpster fire a year down the line. But obviously the times where you made the right call just don't stick out that much because stuff "just worked", and also, in case you think you made the wrong decision, the alternative could've been ever worse. But still, I guess everybody knows that feeling? :-)