I think you are being unfair here. Literally every community has the 1% of toxic, loud and insufferable people in it. Point me at your hobbies and I'll find these kinds of people there, I can bet my neck on it.
Many people conflate their own irritation from hearing about the thing X often and against their will, with the quality of the thing X.
IMHO critical thinking and maturity demands that we make that distinction.
I have worked several times in Rust companies and their devs are extremely hardcore and very quiet. You couldn't tell these people are responsible for the technical operations and code of worldwide financial services.
So again, be a bit more charitable. Every community has its rotten apples. That says nothing about the quality of the thing that the community stands for.
After being a curmudgeon from 30 to 40 years old, I've figured it's not good for me so I started changing things around and I like my life and career more now.
Don't get me wrong, insufferable people still exist! But I no longer judge an entire community by them.
Many people conflate their own irritation from hearing about the thing X often and against their will, with the quality of the thing X.
IMHO critical thinking and maturity demands that we make that distinction.
I have worked several times in Rust companies and their devs are extremely hardcore and very quiet. You couldn't tell these people are responsible for the technical operations and code of worldwide financial services.
So again, be a bit more charitable. Every community has its rotten apples. That says nothing about the quality of the thing that the community stands for.