Well said. The only place where that doesn’t hold (in my experience) is local government and community events. I try my best to advocate for open alternatives, but many non-technical people just don’t understand the problem with closed ecosystems like Facebook and Twitter.
I do agree with your core point, though: it’s all FOMO, and you can work around everything after you realize that the walled gardens are abusive and not worth your time. I do feel for folks who don’t have good alternatives, though — like families who struggle to find out about school events because they’re only distributed on Facebook. But only by continually insisting that others abstain from walled gardens will we eventually tear the walls down. So it goes; some suffering is inevitable.
I do agree with your core point, though: it’s all FOMO, and you can work around everything after you realize that the walled gardens are abusive and not worth your time. I do feel for folks who don’t have good alternatives, though — like families who struggle to find out about school events because they’re only distributed on Facebook. But only by continually insisting that others abstain from walled gardens will we eventually tear the walls down. So it goes; some suffering is inevitable.