It always bugged me that the PHP community didn't pick up on this and run with it. We've had ASP tags since the beginning (almost?) but I think people avoid it out of some anti-MS stance. Rails runs with <%= just fine.
OTOH, you shouldn't ever be generating XML headers from PHP anyway (XHTML is a dead-end, and raw XML should be generated by an XML library), so this shouldn't be that big of an issue.
But, less than question mark and a space are not a valid XML combination. XML processing instructions cannot begin with a space. Likewise, PHP cannot run commands into the short tags, like <?echo $foo; ?>. So, there really is no collision, it's just grandstanding.
Everytime I type those three little characters, it gives me great pleasure.