I think there's also an element of constructed boxes to put people into as well.

Would I rather say to you, some random person, "I'm gay" and move on? Or do I want to get into "I'm gay, it's complicated" and have to explain more? Most of the time I just don't want to get into it further.

And I've had conversations with some folks who outwardly say they're straight but privately have described themselves pretty similarly to "Well mostly straight, it's complicated."

It's tiring, and I'd like it if we all came to an agreement that it's complicated, the edges don't line up nicely, and we should all just accept that it's weird. It'd make my life way easier