By your own admission, then, you don't know much about this topic. It's frustrating for gay people to have these discussions with people who just don't take homophobia seriously as a problem. Imagine if you had written all of this vague non-commital verbiage about support/opposition for interracial marriage. "I mean, I don't care if a white person and a black person get married, but maybe there is a great argument against it that I just haven't heard because I don't give a fuck."

I'm not sure exactly what I'm trying to say here. But I just want to put it out there that reading this thread as a gay man in 2020 is massively dispiriting. It's clear that only a tiny minority of straight people, even on HN, have any real concern whatever for gay rights.